06 October 2012

Birthday and the Story of how It Is


So today is my birthday.

I am officially 17, and have no more excuses for being immature.

Naturally, as per expected, no one remembers when my birthday is. This year, its on a Saturday, so not even the school has a chance of sending me a card saying "Happy Birthday!"

Now how do I celebrate my birthday? This year, I have the SAT, a Collegeboard way of giving me a present. But mainly, I celebrate on my own. My parents are usually out, doing something other than celebrating my birthday. Which is strange considering that I am their child and all that. My friends? Let's not even get started because I'll get pissed off just talking about it.

What I did for myself before was that I got a present for myself, wrapped it, and then put it in a "secret" place. Then, when my birthday came, I got out the present, blew out the candle on my cupcake, and called it a day with celebrating my birthday. The years that I felt like singing, I sang the birthday song to myself.

It got kinda sad after a while, so I stopped.

There was a girl at my school that said she was really bad at remembering birthdays. She was a friend, someone who I felt would actually care about how I felt. The weird thing was, I personally saw her celebrate the birthdays of two other friends. No matter how insulting that was, at the time I let it slip because I didn't feel as if that was a big deal. And then one day, I saw a girl walk by with these huge balloons, and her friend came over to say happy birthday and then hand over a present.

Presents aren't big with me. You don't have to give me a present to make me feel good or whatever. The main thing with me is that you don't need Facebook to remember when my birthday is. You wouldn't need prompting to do the small things in life that matter. Because in life and relationships, you don't need a major epiphany to make someone's day. It's the culmination of small, everyday things that will definitely make someone happy.  Birthdays are one of those things, one day to show that you care about that person. It's definitely not the same feeling that you get when you get presents on Christmas. Unless you were born on Christmas or something.

And every year, I get living proof that no one cares enough to do the small things. At least I care enough about myself to write a post and then update a status on Facebook.

Happy October 6th everyone.

16 comments:

  1. Aww! Well I do wish you a happy birthday!

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  2. Happy Birthday from me too. :)

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  3. I'm so sorry you had such an awful birthday! I had some exactly like that when I was your age. Trust me when I say that I promise it gets better. This can be a tough age, but it won't always be like this. Stay strong and I hope your days get better!

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  4. Happy birthday! I'm sorry not many people noticed in real life, but we can celebrate here. :)

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  5. Awe...happy birthday!

    Hugs and chocolate fellow Libran,
    Shelly

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  6. Happy Birthday, and to make you feel better, I hate FaceBook!

    Hope you feel better about it all soon...it only comes around once a year!

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  7. HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!! My gift to you is to tell you that at 17 you in no way have to stop being immature. In fact, a bigger gift is to tell you that you can probably get half-way through your twenties before you even have to consider that question. (Take it from me, more than twice your age, and still not mature!!)

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  8. Belated Happy Birthday. (Bear is usually a bit slow about things.)

    I do manage to remember my wife's birthday, and my children's. Grandchildren — not so much, but close enough. And I remember our anniversary (43rd in August).

    When you're young, birthdays are important. You've survived another year. Literally. When you're older, they don't seem to matter so much.

    But it's too bad that our parents have lost the plot.

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  9. I hope you had a beautiful Birthday and as much as it hurts to not have more love and affection and remembrance on what is supposed to be a special day...take action and make each and every day something fabulous for yourself. You only live once. You can grow up but you never have to grow old. Have fun with it and I wish you all the best this coming year.

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  10. Here's another belated happy birthday wish for you.

    Perhaps you should make a point every year of planning a big celebration on your special day. Ask your parents and friends in advance what they think you should do on it and what they've done for other people on their birthdays, because you really want some good ideas. If after this they still don't do anything for you, give up on them. There are much better peopel out in the world for you to find.

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  12. Thank you for taking the time to leave a post on my blog. I'm sure I'm one of the boring ones out there, but it was appreciated! :)
    My husband "refused" to let me tell him "happy birthday" on his facebook page because he didn't want a bunch of people pretending that they knew & cared.
    I'm also pretty amazed that you are 17 with the depth of your posts!
    http://blessedbeyondmeasure121.blogspot.com/

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  13. happy belated birthday!! i'm sorry it wasn't a day where you felt celebrated! thankful you have this blog get share your heart and hopefully feel loved here!

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  14. Sad! I hope you had some fun on your birthday. It's rotten the people around you are not better about celebrating you. Although let me tell you, I probably US mail about 50 birthday cards each year and this year I received four in the mail. Not a huge return - but I guess that's not why I do it. Hopefully you can make a big deal (or at least remember) the birthdays of those you care about and maybe some day they'll do the same for you.

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