08 October 2012

My Philosophy


As many of you know, I've been visiting a lot of blogs lately. To be honest this experience has been both interesting and harrowing in its own way. I see people who are depressed, happy, or more often a bit of both. Most of these posts are boring, mainly because I can somehow feel that this person was not being true to the audience. That they were somehow lying to their audience.

With the year (about) that I have been blog-hopping, I have discovered something cool. Every blog is different  in its own special way, but there is one main ideology behind each successful one. The way to really connect with someone is to really be honest in how you feel. The more you connect to the reader, the more they will enjoy reading your post, no matter what. 

Anyone can be a good writer. A good writer is constituted as having good grammar, good mechanics, nice structure. But that doesn't attract people. It's not what strikes people in the heart. People get honesty, because they can emphasize with it. Good writing can definitely get you somewhere, but honesty really gets you to the point where you want to be in your writing.

And that is probably why I keep looking at blogs even though I'm so busy with other areas of life. Sure, there's a lot of people with bad writing out there, but if there's honesty, there's something to be learned. It teaches everybody a lesson.

So this is my point. If I can express something that other people can just feel in them, then I believe I have succeeded. We all live in the same world, and I feel that my world is pretty much the same as yours. We're all the same, even though we give each other all of these labels to show how we are somehow "different". All of these differences are not important. Inside, we are the same person. 

40 comments:

  1. Very interesting post, Gina. I've not been blogging for very long and I try to write about my feelings, but I tend to put them in poetry form. I don't get many, or any comments at times, and I am finding it really hard to get started properly.
    I read a lot of blogs, but like you, I wish people would concentrate more on their grammar.

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  2. There's a saying, "The more things change, the more they stay the same." The same can be said about our differences. The more we work at labeling our differences, the more we'll realize how alike we really are.

    And I think you are right about the really successful blogs. There's not some fake person putting on airs, usually someone sharing and being honest about something on their mind.

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  3. Emotions are incredibly important when it comes to being a good writer. There's a difference between being good with English, and being a good writer.

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  4. When reading blogs we come across a lot of different opinions and thoughts and emotions which is what makes blogging so interesting.

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  5. Great philosophy!
    I try to make my blog communicate my personal thoughts, feelings and experiences. Sometimes when I find something I like on the web I share it in a post. I follow some foreign blogs because I don't want to limit myself to only English.
    I'm going to follow your blog and put it on my blog list.
    Thanks,
    John M

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  6. Isn't it interesting how even from the "page" we can tell if it's genuine or not??? I totally agree! It's weird. And you're spot on. I believe in honesty... but I also believe in not being *too* honest... as a writer, I think there's a balance of showing who you are but also staying professional. Great post! :D

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  7. Your post reminded me about the view of the writer philosopher Marcel Proust who said that when we read we may find the words that describe our own feelings. Yeah we are all the same, some express, some express well and some dont or cant express.. Gud one

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  8. Thank you for deeming my blog one that you felt was worth a visit...i would like to know how my blog rated in your scheme of ratings (boring, honest, good writing and grammar etc???)Especially at the grand age of 17 years with all your experience in such a young life i am waiting to hear. ...

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  9. I love this, so glad you found my blog so I could then "find" yours.

    Tab

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  10. I am so glad you found my blog! I agree with you! I know that I feel sometimes my life can be boring so I would love to know how you found my blog, (boring, honest etc) I know that online I use a nickname instead of my real name, and that I don't put everything out there, although I am starting to be a little more open with some of my things, I love to find new blogs to read, because it helps me to understand where people are coming from and make friends!

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  11. I have often thought that it's authenticity that makes for a good blog. I totally agree with this post of yours. Thanks for visitingy blog. My blog honesty wavers from bang on to vague, but the response from readers when you are bang on is often instant and overwhelming. Contrivance in blogs soon grates on the nerves, I think.

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  12. Very nice post. My experience is not as much as yours yet so I have not seen the depressing ones. Interesting post you have. :) thanks for visiting. Following back. Keep in touch :)

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  13. i find it hard to marry my personality into my posts since my blog is mostly information, and most ppl skip the words, look at the pics, and then comment. but i really do try.

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  14. Great post, I really enjoyed reading it!
    -meandmr.com

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  15. I do like when people are honest, but I feel like some people can be *too* honest. You know? Some things should be kept private! But I definitely agree with you..the blogs that I'm constantly reading are ones that I really connect with.

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  16. Aaaaand BAM! Such an inspiring reminder post. I appreciate the honesty of this entry.

    "So this is my point. If I can express something that other people can just feel in them, then I believe I have succeeded."

    Your post is an exact demonstration of this success.

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  17. Luckily most of the blogs that I follow are pretty sincere.

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  18. great post! :)
    visit my blog too? http://raellarina.blogspot.com/
    xoxo. :)

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  19. Hi! Thanks for your visit and comment on my blog:) This post is great, and your blog is very interesting:) Maybe we follow each other? Let me know:) Have a nice day:) Monic
    http://www.swiatwkolorzeblond.com/

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  20. I love your philosophy girl. I am with you on this one, I have a fashion blog and I mostly keep it related to it and sonetimes personal things, but being vulnerable is the key to connect. we all go through it!

    http://navlandstyle.blogspot.ca/

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  21. I completely agree. You can often tell people are holding back in their blog posts - I do it myself! True, honest posts are what connect people the most. I love reading other peoples blogs to see how other young people are similar, yet all have different obstacles they go through.

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  22. Thank-you for commenting on my post. I popped over to "meet" you. This particular post was a good way for me to get to "know" you. I am not the best writer but I am the worst speller. I am also honest to a fault. I find you very wise for one so young. Peace.

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  23. I'm with you on this one! Depending on my mood, sometimes I like to read inspirational blogs. Other days if I need a good laugh, I go to humorous blogs. And then there are my "dark" days when I like to read depressing stuff because then I know I am not alone feeling miserable--does that make sense??? Usually though, I am looking for a good laugh because I learned that humor can get you through just about anything! Following you now on your GFC!

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  24. it sounds like you have everything figured out

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  25. Hi Gina!
    Thanks for stopping by my blog - I enjoyed reading this post - it was very honest with great points. What are your thoughts on blogs that aren't necessarily personal but geared more towards a genre (like fashion or food). How do you recommend they connect with a reader while still staying true to what they're writing about? I'd be curious to hear what you have to say! :)
    xoxo,
    Nikki at www.bedazzlesafterdark.com

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  26. Hi Gina, the question I often ask is why do people blog. I know when I started to blog close to 4 years ago, it started out as a Project 365, one photo a day for one year with a bit of journaling. I've just finished my degree and throughout life and studies my blog was my "me" time each and every night. I've really grown through my blog, I've enhanced my photography skills although there are days when I use my phone and post photos from this. I keep my blog real, it's a part of my life and the nice thing is that I've printed out two of the three years I've done and it's like a journal... naturally not the type of journal I keep for my eyes only, there's just some things I choose not to share with the world.

    I also love that I get to see the world through others lenses, there's so many places I'd now love to visit after seeing what people experience in their part of the world. While I was in Australia for my final placement I got to meet face to face and enjoy some quality time with two ladies whom I met here on Blogger and what a phenomenal experience this was.

    I like what you had to say here, I feel that as individual as we all are we all share what we are comfortable with sharing, nothing more and nothing less. We are also at different stages in our life which sometimes I can relate to what others are saying and sometimes I can't, it depends where my personal growth has taken me.

    Thanks for stopping in to my part of the world. I hope you have a wonderful week. Cheers.

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  27. Great philosophy, and I've noticed the same thing in the posts I've read. This is a great thing to keep in mind!

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  28. Honesty is something I have been striving to do with my blog recently. It was a realisation I came to after trying to fit into a mould I thought I should be. Trying to be something is hard work, it's much easier to just sit down and type how it is.

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  29. It takes a great deal of courage to bare your emotions to anyone, and the best writers do it for an audience. You're preceptive in knowing when they were true and when they hold back.

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  30. Wonderful post! Good to have honest dialogue and I hope you continue to find that while you blog hop in the future.

    Thank you for blog hopping over to mine today! Gave me a chance to come check out your blog and become your newest follower! ;-)
    -Jamie
    http://chatterblossom.blogspot.com/

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  31. Eloquently stated...And oh so true. I find the best blogs are those that maintain realism, are written from the heart, and their writers speak in such a way that is not only engaging but true. It's that connection which keeps readers coming back for more because they are allowed to connect with someone they may otherwise have never known.

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  32. Beautiful words... very true x

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  33. Very wise for a 17 year old girl. Thanks for visiting my blog and happy belated birthday.

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  34. I had the same thoughts as 'Elle Sees', my blog is also mainly information, although I leave a personal hint here and there. But I must say I too really enjoy the "real" and personal blogs! Fake superficiality doesn't go the longest way in my books...

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  35. Beautifully written. I find that the posts with the most pageviews and comments are the ones that I wrote from my heart.

    Thank you.

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  36. nice post
    everyone got the red blood

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  37. Hard lesson learned on my blog, I thought it was pretty anonymous and I was being honest and blogging my life from my perspective. People I was writing about it stumbled upon it and now because of two or three honest blog posts I have forever lost some important people in my life. I am still open but careful, if I could do it over, I wouldn't it. Just to clarify, I never divulged names and what I wrote was the truth and my honest thoughts and those people agree to that but it hurt them and they refuse to forgive me (and I understand why they are hurt) in the end, two or three blog post ruined years and years of relationships, kind of sad. My advice, balance the honesty and remember anyone can find you.

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  38. I agree with you - honest posts are the most interesting to read. I've noticed many bloggers over the two years or so I've been reading the blogs of other people have mentioned the same things you've said in this post so you are not alone! I guess my best advice for you is to write for yourself. Whatever is interesting to you, what you want to share, what you like, etc. and the people will come if they are interested. And if they are not, then you're not missing anything!

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